5 psychological tricks to make people like you

5 psychological tricks to make people like you

5 psychological tricks to make people like you

Our brain takes less than 1 second to decide if we can believe someone or not, but if its decisions were correct, there would be no divorces, destroyed friendships, or cheating.

That’s why people tend to be suspicious and not trust anyone they meet immediately. But if you wish to score points with someone, there are some proven methods to do it.

1. Show that you like them.

Have you heard about the “reciprocity of liking” phenomenon? It refers to the tendency for people to like someone who likes them. This happens because people feel warmth and support from their partner, and it’s also rewarding to know that you’re likable. So if one day you need to gain someone’s attention, show a positive attitude toward them, and you will be likely to receive the same amount of love.

2. Spill your coffee.

This advice may seem weird. Why do we have to spoil a first impression by making a clumsy mistake? But a lot of studies confirm that pointing out our vulnerability actually increases our attractiveness and trustworthiness.

3. Apologize excessively.

Another effective but often forgotten method to build trust is to say, “I am sorry!” Researchers note that this works for situations where you are obviously not at fault. For example, by saying, “I’m sorry about the rain,” you express empathy and regret that something sad has happened to people. You show that you understand their experience, and this considerably increases their belief in you.

4. Casually touch your partner.

It seems that casual touch can also become a powerful catalyst of trust building. A lot of curious and sometimes provocative studies demonstrate its effectiveness. When an attractive man asked for phone numbers from young women on the street, he touched some of them for the sake of science. 19% of the women who were touched (and only 10% of those who were not touched) provided their numbers.

When employing this method keep in mind social and cultural norms. Touch is less likely to have any beneficial effects if you violate personal boundaries.

5. Make it all about them.

We assume that ego suspension is the most difficult way to make someone trust you. When applying this approach, you are supposed to focus on the needs, wants, and perception of reality of another person rather than on your own beliefs. “Most times, when 2 individuals engage in a conversation, each patiently waits for the other person to be done with whatever story he or she is telling. Then, the other person tells his or her own story, usually on a related topic and often times in an attempt to have a better and more interesting story.”/brightside



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